I know this incident has been covered ad-naseum in the media lately, in fact the “Why-I-Stayed” Twitter hashtag has gone viral! I just can't help but add my comments here.
Ladies, here are a few startling statistics as provided on the Domestic Violence Statistics site:
- A woman is assaulted or beaten every 9 seconds.
- 1 in every 3 women around the world has experienced abuse.
- Abuse is the leading cause of injury for women.
- Every day at least 3 women are murdered by a significant man in their life.
The Rice video that has dominated the news cycle in the past few days is shocking, but gives us a chance to experience what it is like to be alone with an abuser. Ray Rice waited until the elevator doors closed to cold-cock his girlfriend in the face ....and then drug her out of the elevator like she was a bag of bricks. This big, muscled hunk of a man couldn't even lift his petite girlfriend in his arms to carry her to their room. He didn't even show any concern for her after his brutal actions. In fact, in one frame he tries to move her slightly with a push of his foot!
Of course, many people are asking how any woman who was treated this way could marry her abuser afterward? That is the Ten Million Dollar question for all women. Why do we ever allow any form of abuse, whether it is verbal or physical? Lack of esteem? Family history? Trapped by finances? Small children? Whatever the reason, if you know a woman living with abuse, it's important to guide her to resources that can help her. Make sure she has the National Domestic Violence Hotline below. And just as important is not to judge; She has a heavy enough weight on her shoulders already. Instead, encourage her to get help and give her your support.
Resources for an abused woman:
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
An Abuse, Rape & Domestic Violence Aid & Resource Collection site
The United States Department of Justice on Domestic Violence
Resources for Victims of Teen Violence